These days there’s a mad rush to be purpose driven and I wholeheartedly agree, it is better to be purpose driven than going in reverse or stuck in neutral. However, why would I be content to be just purpose driven and not living my life’s purpose on purpose? I believe the real reason most people are okay with being just purpose driven is because they don’t know how to identify their real purpose for existing or what purpose means when it relates to individuals. If you’re reading this article, this is the day that was created for you to begin living your life with a purpose...on purpose.
Although happiness is evident when you are fulfilling your purpose, there are several other key virtues that will accompany happiness. First, how do we begin to find what our purpose is in life? Why are we here? Like everything else in life, finding your purpose, begins with finding and understanding of who you are. Understanding one’s self is a process that most people neglect or choose not to go through. Understanding who you are as well as self-examination and evaluation is the beginning of identifying your purpose. It is important you get a mental picture of what you look like living your purpose now.
At this point of discovery you will start to identify your passion if you don’t already know. What is it that gives you a burning desire to fulfill or complete in life? If you are driven with passion to do certain things and you are really focused on these things as well as get great fulfillment and enjoyment in doing them, then you may have identified your purpose.
Some Simple Guidance
Consider the following activity as a bit of a guide, and complete it anytime you want to:
- Focus your goals over a long period of time
- Clarify your purpose, function, or vision
- Review your long-term goals.
1. Purpose. What do you think is the fundamental purpose of your life? If you are not sure, what is your best guess? Your purpose should reflect why you believe you are alive for your own development, rather than for others.
2. Function. Based on your purpose, what do you think is your function in society?
3. Peak of Success Vision. In the same reflective mood, consider the point in your life at which you could be at the peak of your success. How old will you be? If you don't know, be playful and guess.
Now, consider the quality of life you want for yourself at that time. Answer in complete sentences. Visualize how you want to be living and experience how you want to feel. Describe:
- Where you live
- Your home environment and the people with whom you live
- Service, career and business
- Financial matters
- Professional support network
- Family, friendships and other relationships
- Your spare time and private time
- Your personal needs, health and wellbeing
- Your modes of creative self-expression
- How you are empowered
- Above everything else, what do you want from your life?
When you have finished your vision, using a Mind Map, write the titles of each category above in the map as a topic. Identify key elements for each category, then write them in abbreviated terms in the appropriate category on your map. The map is not necessary, but gives you a nice clean visual of how you responded.
4. Support. How do you believe you are supported to fulfill your purpose, function, and vision? When you want support, from where do you seek it? When you don't feel supported, what do you do? Determine the effectiveness of this strategy. How do you want to feel supported? What will you do to experience the support you want?
5. Limitations. List and describe the self-limiting beliefs, fears, and patterns, by which you currently feel inhibited. (Example: I fear rejection, so I don't reach out. and stay stuck.) How does this affect your ability to succeed? Identify what you are ready to change and explain how you will accomplish it. With what will you replace these limitations?
6. Shadow. What need, desire or aspect of personality, do you most suppress or fear? For example, do you fear your anger? Or do you suppress positive attributes, such as sensitivity or love. (If you are not sure, ask someone close to you for help.) Why do you suppress or fear this? Explain how suppressing this affects you. Determine how you will stop suppressing it, and how to allow greater freedom of expression, and describe how you will feel. Describe how your life purpose, function, and vision will be enhanced.
7. Resources. List your internal strengths and resources and explain how they empower you. Review this list. Determine if anything is missing, and how you will acquire it. List your external resources and, next to each, explain how it is supportive. Review your list and determine needed resources, and explain how you will utilize them. Include costs and dates when appropriate.
8. Conclusion. How do you feel now? Why? Describe what you have gained from this visioning. Write a commitment statement to yourself and to your purpose, function, and vision. Read it daily. Share it with your family and the people closest to you, so that they are better able to support yo
I believe one of the most powerful forces in the universe is love and another is our ability to choose our own thoughts. A single action is derived from a thought. One of my favorite sayings is, “The me I see, is the me I’ll be.” In other words, I must begin to see myself as I want to be and not as I am. Once you can mentally see yourself living your purpose, those very images and thoughts you have about yourself will begin to draw the desired thought patterns and behavior into your life that will produce what you desire.
Determining to change your way of thinking about yourself is paramount if you want to find your purpose. I am a big proponent of change your mindset, change your life. Sometimes it is our limiting thoughts and beliefs that keep us from going where we want or need to go in life.
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Another important area for identifying your purpose is discovering the spiritual part of you.
It is out of the spiritual you that you will determine and establish your moral and value system. Your own beliefs of right and wrong and live your life according to those very beliefs without compromising them for anyone. And as you continue on the path to living your purpose, don’t forget to mentally see yourself purpose living.
It’s also important to understand the importance of relationships and serving others.
Along with developing relationships and serving others, you must also master the art of effective communications and setting boundaries. Learning how to effectively communicate in all of your relationships will enable you to successfully set boundaries. Setting boundaries will bring and give you the respect you need to have long, successful and lasting relationships. These same boundaries will also help you in accepting and respecting the boundaries of others.
Once you are confident in your relationships with boundaries, you are now ready to re-evaluate and establish your goals. A goal can be the same as a purpose, but try looking at goals as an outline of achievements to your path. Let goals be nothing more than categories and subcategories of the outline in which you have created. With this same outline, now you can begin to road map your success of accomplishing these goals step by step.
You see, finding your purpose in life is not a secret, nor is it a complicated task. It does however require a commitment and dedication on your part to transform yourself from the inside out from a purpose given into a life with a purpose that you’re living.